Am I troubled?

Well another day has come and gone. It's late, and I just got my e-mail responding nearly done (I'll finish the rest tomorrow). Morgan went back to his house. Heather is well enough to chase him around. It's sad not to have him here, I can put away the potty chair, and the cat can come out of hiding, but it's still sad. On a positive note, I can get work done now! :)

George and I went out to a Chamber function tonight. Hundreds of people go to these, they have them every month, and we rarely miss them. We were talking to a friend of ours while we were there, which isn't unusual, we really know everybody there (I love small town life). Anyway..... I got into a conversation with him about some trivial thing, and mentioned that I thought about his wife when I did this thing. (I used her name of course, but in case you know them.....) He said 'oh, I guess you haven't heard', then a long pause....... (not typically good news)

It seems that they split up a few months ago. Sad.... Really sad because I liked these guys. They have been together since college, and raised 3 grown kids. They're our age. Of course it's none of my business, but you know I had to ask. He said it was mostly his idea, but really pretty mutual. They just grew apart. I guess it happens. I have no moral high ground to stand on, but I did question his decision. 'Really?.......' I said, 'after all this time?.......' wasn't there anything that you could do? He said he had been thinking about it for a while, and just didn't want to spend the rest of his life like that. I mentioned that they seemed so happy when we spent days at the lake (which we did often), and he said that was one of his big reasons for the split. He said he wanted what we have. wow...

He said that he never realized his bad his relationship was until one by one, his kids moved away and it was just the two of them, and they realized that they had nothing left. He wanted to be married to his best friend too. Somebody to play with, and travel with, and work with, and grow old with. Well, you get it....

So I sit here contemplating the whole issue (sort of watching SciFi, too) and try to decide if I feel bad because in a weird sort of way I feel like we caused his breakup, or do I feel sad because my friends are hurting, or do I feel happy that we're kind of a role model?.......

I lived in a relationship that would have had to improve immensely to be considered 'hell'. I endured pain that I'd never felt before, pain I thought I could not survive, and pain I prayed to God to never feel again, (see future blogs.....) and somehow in that mess learned what I wanted in a relationship - and now I have it.

I think I'll just feel lucky.

Just a quick update

Wow, has it really been over a month since I've written? It's hard to believe, but I do. I read the blog entries every morning, and I tell myself that I will take a minute to write what's up, but then I get busy..... Later on in the evening, I get carried away working and promise myself that I will take a minute, then I get busy.....

I see a pattern...


So, the quick update for you. Dane's basketball season is over. They weren't on the top or the bottom of the heap, but he really improved this season and we look forward to next. Baseball is signing up next week, which we really love. Dad plays too, so twice a week, every week, I sit in the bleachers and cheer. Sometimes Morgan comes with Grandma to cheer for 'Uncle Dane' and 'Grandpa'. Pics to follow, no doubt.


I got to hang out with the best part of my life (my family) last week, for Tadd's birthday. That's always fun. Here's a couple of the photos for you to enjoy....

and here's Crystal and Joe, obviously sitting right next to me with the camera - oh well, it's a great picture anyway.

It was really cute watching Uncle Tadd and Morgan coloring. Morgan was so engrossed in his efforts.

I'll write more soon, and I'll include more pictures.