Well another day has come and gone. It's late, and I just got my e-mail responding nearly done (I'll finish the rest tomorrow). Morgan went back to his house. Heather is well enough to chase him around. It's sad not to have him here, I can put away the potty chair, and the cat can come out of hiding, but it's still sad. On a positive note, I can get work done now! :)
George and I went out to a Chamber function tonight. Hundreds of people go to these, they have them every month, and we rarely miss them. We were talking to a friend of ours while we were there, which isn't unusual, we really know everybody there (I love small town life). Anyway..... I got into a conversation with him about some trivial thing, and mentioned that I thought about his wife when I did this thing. (I used her name of course, but in case you know them.....) He said 'oh, I guess you haven't heard', then a long pause....... (not typically good news)
It seems that they split up a few months ago. Sad.... Really sad because I liked these guys. They have been together since college, and raised 3 grown kids. They're our age. Of course it's none of my business, but you know I had to ask. He said it was mostly his idea, but really pretty mutual. They just grew apart. I guess it happens. I have no moral high ground to stand on, but I did question his decision. 'Really?.......' I said, 'after all this time?.......' wasn't there anything that you could do? He said he had been thinking about it for a while, and just didn't want to spend the rest of his life like that. I mentioned that they seemed so happy when we spent days at the lake (which we did often), and he said that was one of his big reasons for the split. He said he wanted what we have. wow...
He said that he never realized his bad his relationship was until one by one, his kids moved away and it was just the two of them, and they realized that they had nothing left. He wanted to be married to his best friend too. Somebody to play with, and travel with, and work with, and grow old with. Well, you get it....
So I sit here contemplating the whole issue (sort of watching SciFi, too) and try to decide if I feel bad because in a weird sort of way I feel like we caused his breakup, or do I feel sad because my friends are hurting, or do I feel happy that we're kind of a role model?.......
I lived in a relationship that would have had to improve immensely to be considered 'hell'. I endured pain that I'd never felt before, pain I thought I could not survive, and pain I prayed to God to never feel again, (see future blogs.....) and somehow in that mess learned what I wanted in a relationship - and now I have it.
I think I'll just feel lucky.
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We are so lucky to have what we have! I'm sad that they broke up but happy that they relized they could be happy while they are still able to enjoy life to the fullest. They may end up alone for the rest of their lives but they may find their soul mate now also. Alot of people stay together just because it seems like the easiest thing to do, like mom and dad did. They weren't happy, I asked mom one time "why don't you leave and just go be happy"? She said to me where would I go and what would I do? I've been with your dad so long I might as well just stay. I think your female friend will be fine, I think your male friend will be chasing a dream and never find it but he might. I wouldn't blame yourself for the breakup, be thankful instead. love you
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